August 8, 2000. A day that will be burned in my mind until I take my own last breath, because this was the day I watched my father take his. It was the fourth day of the fourth grade and I was 9 years old. Dad had been sick since before I was born. HeContinue reading “20 Years Later”
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Task Four: Embarking on A New Life
We are at the end of our four task series. If you have not had a chance to read about the other three, I would do that now. The fourth task of Worden’s Tasks of Mourning is to find an enduring connection with the deceased while embarking on a new life. At the beginning ofContinue reading “Task Four: Embarking on A New Life”
Task Two: Work Through the Pain
Last week, I started a series in which we are discussing Worden’s Four Tasks of Mourning. If you haven’t read last week’s post, I would encourage you to do so to be able to have a better understanding of the tasks. This week we are continuing this series by talking about Worden’s second task ofContinue reading “Task Two: Work Through the Pain”
The First Tasks: Acceptance
There are many approaches that people have created to illustrate how people process grief. Some talk about stages, some talk about steps, and one talks about tasks. William Worden provides for us four tasks of grief in order to achieve equilibrium in our life again. These four tasks can be completed in the order theContinue reading “The First Tasks: Acceptance”
Another Celebrity Gone
“This is the moment I accept the most challenging times will always be behind me and in front of me.”- Kobe Bryant Today we are all still in shock and full of sadness. Yesterday, the world experienced the loss of Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna, a Gianna’s teammate Alyssa and her parents John andContinue reading “Another Celebrity Gone”
My Grand Baby Grand
“My mother bought it secondhand from a silent movie star It was out of tune but still I learned to play And with each note we both would smile forgetting who we are And all the pain would simply fly away” Well, my mother did not buy our piano second hand. In fact, it wasContinue reading “My Grand Baby Grand”
4th Day of Fourth Grade
In August 2000, I went back to school on August 4th. It was a Thursday and my dad had been in the hospital for almost 10 months straight. At this point, he had suffered from two heart attacks and multiple organs had started to fail. My mom and I were guessing his time left onContinue reading “4th Day of Fourth Grade”
Keeping the Traditions
It’s July, which means for some this is a weird time to talk about traditions. Normally topics of tradition come up during the Holiday season, but what about the traditions in the other times of the year? Those are traditions we don’t seem to acknowledge during other times of the year are important too. MyContinue reading “Keeping the Traditions”
The Need for Self Care
Self care? What does that mean? What is it supposed to look like? Can we take care of ourselves during our grief? How are we supposed to do that? I often tell my people I work with how I manage my grief on days that it is taking over my body. If I wake upContinue reading “The Need for Self Care”
“Tidying Up” Your Grief
Marie Kondo has been one of the most influential people in our society in the past several years. Not only does she have a book, but now she has a Netflix series that many have loved watching as they make their mountain of clothes and start to see whether their items spark joy or ifContinue reading ““Tidying Up” Your Grief”