You Should Be 70

You should be turning 70 today. This year my phrase isn’t “You WOULD be 70 today if you were here.” Nope. Today my sentiment is “You SHOULD be 70 today”. With so many of our family members making it to this milestone, you should have too. Today I’m upset you’re not here. Today as IContinue reading “You Should Be 70”

A Space for Memories

Memories are the moments that we get to hold onto after our loved one dies. We can pull these memories out for a smile, laugh or tears whenever our brain allows us too. One of the ways to easily do this is by having some pictures or mementos around your home or living space. YouContinue reading “A Space for Memories”

Reliving the Memories

November 14, 2010. I wish I could say I woke up feeling like this day was starting out as any other day, but when I woke up my body seemed to know this day would be anything but normal. I was not currently aware of this, but looking back I think I did deep downContinue reading “Reliving the Memories”

Task Four: Embarking on A New Life

We are at the end of our four task series. If you have not had a chance to read about the other three, I would do that now. The fourth task of Worden’s Tasks of Mourning is to find an enduring connection with the deceased while embarking on a new life. At the beginning ofContinue reading “Task Four: Embarking on A New Life”

Task Two: Work Through the Pain

Last week, I started a series in which we are discussing Worden’s Four Tasks of Mourning. If you haven’t read last week’s post, I would encourage you to do so to be able to have a better understanding of the tasks. This week we are continuing this series by talking about Worden’s second task ofContinue reading “Task Two: Work Through the Pain”

The First Tasks: Acceptance

There are many approaches that people have created to illustrate how people process grief.  Some talk about stages, some talk about steps, and one talks about tasks.  William Worden provides for us four tasks of grief in order to achieve equilibrium in our life again. These four tasks can be completed in the order theContinue reading “The First Tasks: Acceptance”

Another Celebrity Gone

“This is the moment I accept the most challenging times will always be behind me and in front of me.”- Kobe Bryant   Today we are all still in shock and full of sadness. Yesterday, the world experienced the loss of Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna, a Gianna’s teammate Alyssa and her parents John andContinue reading “Another Celebrity Gone”

My Grand Baby Grand

“My mother bought it secondhand from a silent movie star It was out of tune but still I learned to play And with each note we both would smile forgetting who we are And all the pain would simply fly away” Well, my mother did not buy our piano second hand. In fact, it wasContinue reading “My Grand Baby Grand”

Back to School: A Guardian’s Guide to Helping a Grieving Child

As I discussed in my last blog post, my dad died on the fourth day of fourth grade.  I took days four through nine off from school and Monday I was expected to go back. “What? My dad just died. I’m not leaving my mom for 7 hours a day to just go to school.Continue reading “Back to School: A Guardian’s Guide to Helping a Grieving Child”